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The news of any diagnosis can come as a massive shock to anyone and the thought of knowing that your spouse has been diagnosed with any form of cancer can turn your life upside down.
A breast cancer diagnosis can induce mixed emotions of fear, anxiety, and a sense of grief for a woman which can have a significant impact on her marriage.
It is important to remember the role of a partner in managing a breast cancer journey as love and emotional support are key to helping her through this life-changing situation.
Information is key
The fear of the unknown can trigger anxiety and fear for everyone involved, so equip yourself with knowledge about her condition and the options available for her treatment.
You must attend her medical appointments with her so that you can pick up key information and ask questions about the treatment options and prospects. You will be able to engage her health care professionals in conversations around and be well informed on how best to support her.
Be patient and adaptable
The dynamics of your wife’s life will certainly change, and this will impact your own life and that of your family. These changes can either create dysfunctionality or unity within the household; therefore patience is key in managing these changes.
The impact her treatment will have on the family can be unpredictable as every day will be different depending on her needs and how she is feeling. This can induce a level of frustration and anger and being patient and adaptable is key to managing the changing situation.
Give her reassurance
Being diagnosed with breast cancer is not a reason to treat your wife like a delicate child as this can trigger her emotions. The support of a loving husband can have a massive impact on the healing process, and your love and companionship can help her reduce her anxiety and feeling of loneliness.
Physical acts of love such as hugs, kisses and holding her hands are lovely expressions of love and a wonderful way to give her reassurance and can have a positive impact on her total well-being.
Ask for support
It is important to ask for support as there are many groups supporting men looking after their wives and talking to others with comparable situations can help you manage your fears and concerns.
Understanding the physical changes, your obligations and economic responsibility can be overwhelming and joining a support group can help you access the various financial support, advocacy groups and therapies.
You may need support so that you can look after yourself as a carer and seeking the support of family members to assist when needed will help you maintain a sense of stability during this challenging period.
Learn her communication language
Communication is key to understanding how best to support your wife and encouraging her to share her feelings and emotions can help you connect with her and her needs better. She may find it difficult to share her thoughts if she is overly sensitive and considerate as she may be feeling a sense of guilt for her own situation. Validate her feelings and always create a safe space for her to cry as crying is a form of communication.
